14. in the search of purpose...

Category: Career and Purpose

​14.

Feeling stuck? Sometimes,
the best thing to do is… something silly.

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When we are feeling stuck in our careers or personal lives, the urge to “do something” can be overwhelming. Personally, I am a supporter of moving the needle - getting something, anything done, as I am of the belief that clarity comes from taking action.

To kick start the process, it helps to ask ourselves a few questions:

• What is really frustrating me here? Feeling ‘stuck’ is a result of two forces pulling in opposite directions. One is usually a desire (for change, for progress, for a goal, etc.), the other one is very often a fear (of making mistakes, of wasting time, of looking stupid).
  That fear is often unacknowledged, yet it is pulling with the exact same force away from the direction of the desire.
  
• Do I need clarity or action? Such a simple question and the hardest one to answer honestly. The thing is, there will never be absolute clarity before we take action. Taking action is part of creating clarity.
  
• How can I make this FUN? Returning back to the topic of playfulness, allows us to become friends with potential failure. Doing something silly, goofy puts us again into a state of creativity and flow.
  
  What I have learned in the coaching sessions through the years is that probably the number one reason we feel stuck is because we like feeling safe. We do not want to let go of certainty, but we want to feel alive. And the thing is, to move forward - something’s got to give.

Interesting. How do I step towards change then?
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