35. in the search of purpose...

Category: Career and Purpose

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Also on purpose:
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The work on purpose can be 
especially difficult for
those of us who are perfectionists.

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We know that perfectionism is another protection mechanism against failure and against rejection. Often when we start the purpose discovery sessions, what we see is that most of us ask for absolute certainty in order to commit ourselves to taking steps in that direction. What do I mean by this?
The most common things we say and what we actually mean are: 

• ‘I am not sure what I actually want’ is another way of saying, it is important for me to be absolutely certain this will be worth my time and energy.
• ‘I may be too old to make changes now’ is another way of saying, it may lead to lifestyle changes I am not ready for or willing to make. Also, I may fail along the way or it will not be as I expected.
• ‘I like many things, do not know how to choose one’  is a very relatable way of admitting, we do know deep down what we may want to pursue but the idea of making a choice is scary. 
  
  

Here is the plot twist, though - releasing all these blocks is far easier than we think. It often takes one person that holds us accountable to making one step - any step - in any direction and not stopping before we have walked for a while. This can be a coach, a friend, a family member and anyone who has our best intentions at heart.


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