46. in the search of purpose...

Category: Career and Purpose

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If we have been overriding our emotions for 20 years, it is even harder to actually know what we want.

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Back to the topic of making changes in our lives - there are two main sources of motivation. A push motivation - when we are greatly driven by the hardship and unbearable reality we are experiencing. And a pull motivation - a deeply personal source of drive that is driven by a vision of a dream or better future. Often the greatest changes come from the second type - a pull motivation that is also positive emotion driven.

But to tap into that source of energy, we need to be able to hold space for our emotions. When we suppress our emotions for years, it becomes increasingly difficult to understand what we truly want.
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• Emotional disconnect: Constantly overriding emotions leads to a disconnect from our inner selves, making it hard to recognise desires.
  
• Conditioned responses: This is how it is, life is like that, and so many more sayings that have no power to bring us solutions.
  
• Stagnation of self-awareness: Without emotional clarity, self-awareness stagnates, and our decision-making becomes reactive, not intentional.

We do not know what we want partially because we have learned to numb ourselves - both negatively and positively - and that makes the sense of desire, the sense of joy and excitement out of reach.
To bring big dreams into reality, we need to tap into big emotions.

Our present and our future is made out of habits.
Changing habits is the absolute key to creating sustainable change.

What would be a good starting point if you want change?
    It always starts with charting the end destination…