45. about regulating our emotions...

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The importance of cultivating emotional regulation in creating a better life

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We all have heard that the emotions we experience and the thoughts we think again and again have a relation to the life we lead. But how? Emotional regulation plays a crucial role in shaping a better life and embracing meaningful change.

Research by Gross (2002) suggests that individuals who are skilled in emotional regulation tend to have better mental health, stronger relationships, and greater success in achieving personal goals. When we master our emotions, we gain control over our reactions, allowing us to respond thoughtfully rather than impulsively.

This skill is particularly crucial when navigating periods of transition or self-improvement. Everytime, things are not as we expected, we will notice a change in our emotional state. And that is the moment to practice self awareness and emotional regulation.

A study by John and Gross (2004) found that those who practice emotional regulation are more resilient to stress and setbacks, which is essential when striving for change. Without emotional regulation, we risk being overwhelmed by stress, frustration, or self-doubt, all of which can hinder progress.

Cultivating emotional regulation is not an easy process - by all means it is a steep curve when we have spent years in a certain emotional home. But ultimately - as many excellent coaches point out - we either need to master our emotions or they will master us.

We now know that we can choose our emotions - sounds very difficult in many situations - but is truly where our power to shape our life is.

Hm, how are thoughts and feelings connected - which one comes first?
            Our thoughts and emotions are very tightly connected but…